A Time to Mourn & a Time to Speak

February 2007

The Banner, the official organ of the Christian Reformed Church (once known as the True Dutch Reformed Church, a Calvinist body of the most robust sort), has turned into a wannabe liberal Protestant entity. In its "Frequently Asked Questions" section (Nov. 2006), a reader writes: "Our adult son has told us he is gay and wants us to meet his partner. Although we love our son, we don't agree with his decision to live a homosexual lifestyle. Should we refuse to meet his partner?"

The Banner's answer is: "No. Part of loving your son is accepting him unconditionally.... Get to know your son as he is now, as well as his partner, and treat them the same way you would treat a heterosexual son or daughter who brings home a significant other."

Our answer is: Unconditional love is cheap love, and you are giving him tacit approval. Your son is taking poison. You could encourage him to have therapy to change orientations. You could encourage him to be celibate. You could tell him he is on the road to Hell. Do you want to enjoy your son's company in the here-and-now, or do you want to enjoy his company in Heaven forever?

Parents love their sons, but homosexuality should prompt a holy anger. Their love should be conditional, a tough love. St. Paul said, "rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith..." (Ti. 1:13). The more so, since parents are responsible for their children, even adult children.


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'Unconditional love' is the new liberal codespeak for utter and total indifference. Put another way, 'unconditional love' means no real love. Unconditional love (in the example above) means turning ones son over to filth and depravity and the lifelong denial of ones manhood - and then celebrating and affirming that horrific disorder and behavior. That is not love.

God loves us by trying to shape us into truly loving Christ-like creatures. For God to love us, we have to be willing to accede to that love. That is why we have to give up sin - because all sinful behaviors are fundamentally unloving. That is why Christ told us that if we love him, we must obey his commands. He is trying to shape us into something like he, and the first part of that is to give up the unloving and sinful behaviors and thoughts. Hopefully, we will later come to be a more Godly creature which does not yearn for those sinful and unloving behaviors and thoughts to begin with.

Finally, 'unconditional love' has now come to mean the love that will turn a person's soul away from God. That is something worse than indifference - far worse.

Kudos to the editors for exposing this hellish and purposeful twist on true Christian love.
Posted by: luke
February 01, 2007 09:24 AM EST
The first of the spiritual acts of mercy is "Admonish the Sinner". Love the sinner and hate the sin.

Christ's Church will always and everywhere teach that homosexual acts are acts of grave depravity and intrinsically disordered.

Hello Dutch Calvanists abandoned by your church, Rome is calling...
Posted by: Hammer of Heretics
March 29, 2007 10:47 PM EDT
Maybe it's just semantics, but I can still properly love my son without conditions, even as I disapprove of his decision to pursue a gay lifestyle. It is precisely out of love for him that I would admonish him. Obviously that is not the definition of "love" to which we refer here.

In seeking to correct my son, I would probably start by describing the act itself, and ask him what exactly is its appeal.
Posted by: manwithblackhat
March 31, 2007 06:07 PM EDT
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