Not Peace, But a Sword

March 2008

On October 21, 2007, Carol Curoe and her father, Robert Curoe, were scheduled to speak at St. Frances Cabrini Catholic Church in Minneapolis. It took an order from the Coadjutor Archbishop of St. Paul and Minneapolis, John C. Nienstedt, to put a halt to it.

Robert Curoe is an 82-year-old cradle Catholic who lives in a small, Irish Catholic farming community in Iowa, and Carol, 45, attends St. Joan of Arc Catholic Church in Minneapolis. They had planned to give a talk about the book they co-wrote. So, what's the problem?

The title of their book offers a glimpse into the controversy: Are There Closets in Heaven?: A Catholic Father and Lesbian Daughter Share Their Story. Not to go unnoticed: Their book has received endorsements from the notoriously "gay"-friendly Auxiliary Bishop Emeritus of Detroit, Thomas Gumbleton, and Sr. Jeannine Gramick, co-foundress of the homosexualist New Ways Ministry.

The full picture comes into focus in an interview with Carol and her father in the Fall 2007 issue of Rainbow Spirit, the publication of the Catholic Pastoral Committee on Sexual Minorities, which operates out of Minneapolis. Carol is described as a "business consultant" who "lives with [Susan Langlee] her partner of twenty years, their sons, Patrick and Jonathan, and the family dog, Max." When Carol "came out [as a lesbian] to her parents in 1990, their response was one of shock." But "Carol and her father Bob were determined to keep the lines of communication open. What followed over the next several years was a steady stream of correspondence, both poignant and liberating in its honesty and candor. Many of these letters comprise Carol and Bob's book." Carol's mother "died right as the galley books were being printed."


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Archbishop Nienstedt is to be commended for being the true shepard of his flock. I understand Bob's determination to be there for his daughter but the Church is not making him choose between his daughter and Christ or the Church. His responsibility is to help his daughter where he can but continually point out the way to truth and life everlasting. This materialistic,secular world with it's PC mantra rides on the relative rather than absolute truth. She refuses to abandon her physical addiction and carry her cross which is to be chaste as the Church teaches. Look at it this way, if you are disabled and in a wheelchair, it is not the obligation of the people around you to also take up wheelchairs nor of the Church to council to do so. Christ shows the way - many are called but few are chosen. The choice is Carols and Bobs to make. Many times when upholding the Truth, it is tough love as many know who have had to combat drug use in their children. Many in today's PC world cannot see the difference between discrimination as appropriate vs inappropriate behavior and discrimination as to unfairly single out a particular attribute of the human being (race, religious belief etc.) Posted by: awunsch
April 15, 2008 08:43 AM EDT
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