GUEST COLUMN
The Curse of Total Sexual Freedom

June 2016By Robert Barron

Robert Barron is an Auxiliary Bishop of the Archdiocese of Los Angeles and the founder of Word on Fire Catholic Ministries.

The April 11 issue of Time magazine featured a fascinating and deeply troubling article on the prevalence of pornography in our culture. The focus of the piece is on the generation of young men now coming of age, the first generation that grew up with unlimited access to hardcore pornography on the Internet. The statistics on this score are absolutely startling. Most young men commence their pornography use at the age of eleven; there are approximately one hundred and seven million monthly visitors to adult websites in this country; twelve million hours a day are spent watching porn globally on the adult-video site Pornhub alone; and forty percent of boys in Great Britain say that they regularly consume pornography — and on and on. 

All of this wanton viewing of live-action pornography has produced, many are arguing, an army of young men who are incapable of normal and satisfying sexual activity with real human beings. Many twenty-somethings are testifying that when they have the opportunity for sexual relations with their wives or girlfriends, they cannot perform. And in the overwhelming majority of cases this is not a physiological issue, which is proved by the fact that they can still become aroused easily by images on a computer screen. The sad truth is that for these young men, sexual stimulation is associated not with flesh-and-blood human beings but with flickering pictures of physically perfect people in virtual reality. Moreover, since they start so young, they have been compelled, as they get older, to turn to ever more bizarre and violent pornography in order to get the thrill they desire. And this, in turn, makes them incapable of finding conventional, non-exotic sex even vaguely interesting.

This state of affairs has led a number of men from the affected generation to lead the charge to disenthrall their contemporaries from the curse of pornography. Following the example of various anti-addiction programs, they are setting up support groups, speaking out about the dangers of porn, advocating for restrictions on adult websites, getting addicts into contact with sponsors who will challenge them, etc. And all of this, it seems to me, is to the good. But what really struck me in the Time article is that neither the author nor anyone he interviewed or referenced ever spoke of pornography use as something morally objectionable. Pornography has apparently come to the culture’s attention only because it has resulted in erectile dysfunction!


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The effect of saturating society with sex and violence has been well documented. Only those with the most evil, sinister intentions (such as Marxist-controlled Hollywood) would contrive such a scheme. The article neglects an aspect with which Fr. Barron is unfamiliar: women and dating and marriage. For political purposes women are pushed in to the workplace and their children, what few they birth, are put in state-run socialist schools that dumb them down and dope them up. In the final analysis, the days of a reliable relationship and marriage in particular add to pornographic delirium. We are in the age of The Second Coming, but not of Christ, but of The Weimar Republic, a morally, financially bankrupt sovereign nation that was detested by Christians and atheists alike. Posted by: j17ghs
July 13, 2016 04:35 PM EDT
Refocusing Eros on the Person
[Resisting the Dangers of Pornography Today]
(by Stanislaus J. Dundon, Ph.D.)
In a recent New Oxford Review (June 2016) article, Robert Barron, Auxiliary Bishop of the Archdiocese of Los Angeles, commented on an article in Time Magazine (April 11, 2016). The Time article related data on pornography use and addiction. Robert Barron is an Auxiliary Bishop of the Archdiocese of Los Angeles. He notes the shameful elevation of autonomy (sexual license) to a “healthy human right” and the serious pathological consequences of pornography. Bishop Barron’s concluding remarks focus on the fact that both natural and religious constraints on sexual behavior are aimed at preserving the healthy relationship of sex and love, a relationship of subordination of sex to human love. I would like to add some reflections which a parent or teacher might find useful in teaching the virtue of modesty as a love-oriented habit to counter the pornography epidemic.
I found the reported age of first immersion in pornography at age 11 to be shocking since it is probably pretty hard-core live action internet stuff, which would make Playboy look pretty tame. I think that at any age a healthy male’s first exposure to pornography might very well be a mixture of shame and interest and shame because of the interest. Assuring a boy that that confusion is normal but to be avoided is a good first step. Try:
Well, my boy (son, young man, etc.) I wish you hadn’t run into that stuff, but don’t be surprised at your likely feelings. Although you are [probably] too young to be worried about being a dad some day, your body and feelings are already preparing you to have a beautiful woman in your life whom you will love. Then all those feelings will make sense and bring a smile to your face, thinking about having a wife and babies.
But right now those feelings don’t make sense because you are not yet ready to be a dad, especially not economically. And your sense of shame and not wanting me (your parents) to know you saw that stuff is normal too because there is something naturally very private about love between a man and his wife. And somehow we naturally know it should be kept that way. That knowledge and the habits you should want to base on it is called modesty. And men who really love their wives [like I love your mom] want their wives to be both beautiful and modest, saving their very private beauty just for their husband. So most normal good men are embarrassed if they accidentally see a woman with no clothes on. And so you should look away if that happens. It’s polite and it’s modest. Make a habit of it.
Of course you know or certainly could guess that women on the internet or in magazines who are not behaving modestly are not accidentally on display. Sadly, they are paid and sometimes a lot. But it is hard on them because that display is contrary to their natures too. They often get psychologically sick. So while they enjoy being “famous” (usually for a very short time) they soon get into drugs and worse. They are lucky if they get out of the business soon, straighten out their lives and find a man that really loves them as a person. And if he does, the first thing he will want her to do is get out of that business.
So what should you think about yourself if you find yourself going back to watch more of that stuff? Ask yourself, if you found out some man looking at your sister or mom that way, what would you think of him? You would be angry with him? Right! A woman, especially a beloved person, should not be looked at like that. You know it and you feel it. So live your life like that. Live and guard your eyes like that. It is known as modesty of the eyes, the mark of a gentleman, especially a Christian gentleman, the kind of gentleman your sister or your mother would be proud of.
What I have tried to capture in this “father-son” (I have five.) talk is to get at a kind of instinctive, intuitive grasp, even in a young boy, of what is wrong with “objectifying” women without making the boy feel that his sexual emotions are inherently corrupt. I try to do that by putting those emotions in their most fulfilling context: being a husband and a dad. Sometimes we forget, because it so besmirched these days, that the erotic appetite is a beautiful drive and that falling in love makes a Green Bay Badgers guy into a solid citizen.
Posted by: standundon@gmail.com
August 19, 2016 07:39 PM EDT
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