Too Late Have I Loved You
September 2012By John Ballentine
John Ballentine, who has been incarcerated at Greensville Correctional Center in Jarratt, Virginia, since his conviction in 1989, converted to Catholicism in 2001. He is presently pursuing a masters degree in theology from Catholic Distance University. He invites readers to visit his blog, www.thunderinthecell.blog.com, where a coda to this story, as well as his other writings, can be found.
When St. Augustine wrote in his Confessions about discovering God by examining his conscience, he opened his soul to every generation after him. I took his name at confirmation, and I walk in his footsteps as I examine my conscience, pondering how I had my own preborn children murdered, and remembering how I found God. Augustine made famous the phrase, Too late have I loved You. Too late have I loved you, my children, too late to save you from my selfishness.
I was selfish in that I didnt want to share the gift of life with anyone else, as if sharing would somehow diminish my own life. My college girlfriend was on the Pill. When she became pregnant, I felt trapped. Its difficult to acknowledge, but I felt threatened by the most defenseless of all human beings.
I dont need to tell you about the heady days of college life when young men dont want to bridle their lust. My college girlfriend, I suppose, was open to life and love, but I never asked her what she wanted. I didnt care. I decided immediately that we had to resort to murder as the back-up, fail-safe method of birth control.
To borrow the lingo of detective films, the crime scene was her womb and the wrongful death of the living person there was called an abortion. This crime scene would have no investigators except for the consciences of the co-conspirators and their accomplices. The so-called health provider provided no health at all. Three hearts were beating when my girlfriend and I entered the abortuary. Only two survived the visit. And those two hearts were now badly disfigured.
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