The Moral Weight of Words

February 2007By Alice von Hildebrand

Alice von Hildebrand is Professor Emerita of Philosophy at Hunter College of the City University of New York. She is the author, most recently, of The Soul of a Lion (Ignatius; Preface by Joseph Cardinal Ratzinger), about her late husband, the Catholic philosopher Dietrich von Hildebrand; The Privilege of Being a Woman (Sapientia Press); and By Love Refined (Sophia Institute Press). She has written extensively for many Catholic periodicals and appears frequently on Mother Angelica's EWTN.

Man's nobility and greatness are expressed by his capacity to use words that enable him to communicate with his neighbors. One of the problems we all face is that, when we discuss deep experiences, we feel that words prove to be pitifully inadequate. We often say, "Words fail me." Hard as we try, what we "feel" is much deeper than our vocabulary. That is why it is typical of linguists to shift from one language to another, because a foreign word can often better convey certain nuances than one's mother tongue. Those of us who love music feel that it can communicate best what is deepest in us. St. Augustine wrote: Cantare, amantis est. There must be music in Heaven.

Apart from the discrepancy that can exist between the wealth of our emotions and the vocabulary we command, words have another important quality: The words we use disclose -- and sometimes betray -- our attitude toward the object we are referring to. Words have synonyms that mean exactly the same thing, and nevertheless the particular "atmosphere" each word conveys can be very different. In choosing words, we should be conscious of the fact that their "quality" is in some way as important as their meaning.

Some examples are called for: How do we talk about death? One can say that "So-and-So died"; one can say that "his heart stopped beating"; one can say that "he went to meet his Maker"; one can say that "his soul has left his body"; one can say that "he has gone to his reward"; or one can say that "he kicked the bucket." All these expressions point to the exact same phenomenon, but each one also expresses differently one's attitude toward the termination of human life.

One can adopt very different inner attitudes toward death; one can approach it as a purely physical event: One stops living. One can express it biologically: His heart stopped beating. One can take a religious approach: He went to meet his Maker. One can wish to express that a person, whom we believe to be virtuous, went to his reward. One can approach death irreverently and trigger laughter: He kicked the bucket. (This is a reference to the French Revolution, when those condemned to death were placed on a bucket, with a rope around their neck, and the executioner kicked the bucket, and the victim went dangling on the pole.)

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Wonderful article!
Consider this. In cases of demonic possession, the demons often use the four-letter F-word [see Hostage to the Devil]. Could you even imagine Mother Teresa, John Paul II or any of the angels or saints using this word or its vernacular equivalent? In Sirach 23:13 it says: "Do not accustom your mouth to lewd vulgarity, for it involves sinful speech." Remember, words reflect the soul.
Posted by: tomreynolds46
February 05, 2007 07:01 PM EST
Several aspects of this article ring very true for my own experience. I am a sophomore at college and I often am so terribly surprised to hear the language that young ladies choose to use when describing all sorts of things which I wouldn’t expect people to discuss with one another let alone loudly enough so that the whole class can hear it! Of course, young men also should bridal their tongues, but for one reason or another, it pains me more to hear vile language or inappropriate topics come out of a lady’s mouth. There is something about it that almost seems to assault their femininity. That is why I always find it strange that it is often the belligerent feminists on campus who are the worse perpetrators of this impropriety. It’s further proof that feminism is inaccurately named because it doesn’t embrace women at all, but merely seeks to distort and blur distinctions between the sexes. Posted by: pauljmaxmi
February 10, 2007 09:39 AM EST
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